The Path To Success Is Not The One Of Least Resistance

I can see 2 major flaws in myself that have slowed my progress, when I examine my life so far. The inability to just say no and the tendency to avoid uncomfortable situations that came into my life.

Now don’t get me wrong, I also thinkthe path that I must travel to achieve enormous success in my life included the distance and route that i have already covered.

I didn’t develop the the power or mental ability to just say no earlier in my life and the understanding that being uncomfortable is part of the path to success that should be embraced, not avoided.  If I had acquired that knowledge earlier in life, I would now be much farther ahead inside my life plan.  

I’m not educated enough to give you the psychological reasons why I was lacking these two characteristics, but I can give you a couple of examples or reasons of how I was affected.

One of the main reasons I didn’t just say no more often, was because I was afraid that I was going to miss out on something crucial.  I would convince myself that this might be my big break in life and that I didn’t want to miss this chance.

I have been asked to join multi-level marketing businesses on several occasions, as an example. Each time I had said yes, paid my membership dues, set the business up and then did absolutely zip with it.  Someone else would ask me six months later to join another programme and I would.  Same results.  

This inability to just say no was not limited to just my business endeavors, in fact it had plagued most areas of my life.

It was always easier and more comfortable for me to say yes then to just say no.  In my past I had the tendency to stay away from uncomfortable situations.  Though, I never said no to physical confrontations or participating in events like bungee jumping and parachuting.   I even did three years in the military.  Again, it was easier to say yes then to just say no and risk the possible action of putting myself in a position of embarrassment or feeling uncomfortable because I said no.  Even if this meant possible physical injury to myself.  

If I could avoid the possible uncomfortable feelings byavoiding or ignoring a potential uncomfortable situation I would.  I would never say no, I would do it or avoid it at that time in mylife.

 I can tell you that I have wasted a lot of time, energy and money on situations in my life that, if I would have only learned to just say no, I would be so much further on in my life plan.

In the past I have also done myself an injustice by not having allowed myself to be uncomfortable more often.  By avoiding uncomfortable situations and taking the path of least resistance (in my mind), I had actually and woefully taken the path away from my goals, dreams and successes .

Over the years I have worked on my character flaws listening and reading material from people like Bob Proctor  from the movie and the book “The Secret” ,and following the advice in the next two paragraphs.

Acquire the knowledge and the ability to set your goals and  the courage to “Just Say No” to situations and events that lead you away from achieving those goals.
 
Embrace uncomfortable feelings for this means that you are on the path to success.

Author, Hans Kristian Anderson is an internet marketing online business owner.